relational development

I do believe that relational patterns are learned by observing other relations. I believe that is the way we were created to obtain most of our information as to how our lives should be working in just about every area of our lives. God made it us so that we absorb what we see and default to that observation point when under stress. Pure knowledge/fact findings will not override what we have observed to be true in the relationships we have experienced. The thing that will override any facts or knowledge we have are the relationships that have been allowed to impact our lives. Knowledge or teachings that we have obtained carry with them authority in our lives based on the importance or depth of relationship we have with the person from whom we are obtaining the information.
the depth of relational contact and the teacher has with a student, that parents have with a child, that friends have with each other, will directly impact the information and individual determines to be true for them.
I know that when I deliver information, facts, knowledge, whatever the people that are receiving it are impacted by what I had to say based on the relational layers that we have developed. This variety of reception of the information I'm passing on is true from a casual meeting on the street to the children that live in my home. What I have to say may be listened to but will only be absorbed into their lives as truth to the depth of which I have been developing a relationship with them. There may be other relational layers that impact what I have to say, like friends of theirs who I do have a relationship with can let them know what I have to say is trustworthy, or through some multilayered experience what I have to say becomes information that is pivotal for what is going on in their life.
I don't think a church can have a class, or program that says if you follow these steps, and do this homework and then you will be a, disciple, teacher, Elder, worthy of membership, or any number of things that we develop so people will all know the right stuff. That type of modern approach to truth and knowledge only ends up dividing the body of Christ and separating the pieces of the body of Christ from the world.
Funny but what will work is what God says we should all do and that is maintain and develop a continuous relationship with him based on a journey not an arrival.what we do during that journey, and the things we learned along the way are what we pass on to those we come in contact with. I do understand you may use a curriculum to help communicate some of what you have learned by a curriculum should only be a small part not the essence of the training of God's people.
The biblical principle to follow is not one of curriculum in books but one of relational example. I know that this concept has been around for a long time, but overall many have become reliant on the academics of their spiritual journey and it missed out on the depth, beauty, and complicated mess that God intended our spiritual journey to be. In our effort to adapt the scientific approach to our spiritual walk we have boiled our Christian life down to its lowest common denominator. This epistemological approach certainly has sold a lot of books, launched a lot of seminar speakers careers, and started hundreds and hundreds of schools, but it doesn't make it right. A relationship development takes a lot of time and effort. Relational development will complicate your life. Relational development will enrich your journey and make you more like Christ.